Don’t make the mistakes that can get you rejected. Here are six tips to help you find a date on Facebook from initiating a friend request to messaging her on Facebook.
Reasons why People Prefer Facebook For Dating
There are a number of reasons why people prefer to find a date using Facebook rather than initiating a conversation face to face:
Reduces the risk of rejection
Asking someone for their phone number face to face takes more courage and risk. Also by initiating a friend request you get a chance to ‘test the water’ and see if they’re interested first.
Get to know them first
It gives you the chance to get to know the person first. Getting to know their relationship status, their friends and interests gives you the chance to share something you have in common before taking things further. Sharing comments, liking their posts, and messaging them gives you the time to build rapport with them first before asking them on a date. It also helps you decide if they’ll make a good boyfriend/girlfriend.
Facebook can make conversation easier. It’s difficult to think of what to say on the spur of the moment. Chatting on Facebook via instant chat gives you the opportunity to consider what you’re going to say before saying it.
Show your best first
Facebook gives you the opportunity to show the best side of you first and what makes you most attractive, showing your unique traits and characteristics.
Tips to Finding a Date on Facebook
1. Befriend her Friends First
Assuming you have little or no contact with the person in your everyday life, it may seem too out of the blue to initiate a friends request straight away. They may simply reject your offer making it harder to contact them again in future.
Females feel more comfortable associating with those their friends already know. If they think their friends already know you, it gives the impression that you’ve already been judged to be trustworthy. After you have befriended their friends – who you’re not attracted to – you could then initiate a friend request with someone you are.
2. Start off with something you have in Common
Facebook gives you the opportunity to know them first, so exploit this opportunity to find out what you’ve got in common. Whether it be friends, an event or a shared hobby. If you don’t know much about the subject and need to fake it, at least do a little research first. You can research anything nowadays with Google.
3. Don’t Creep her Out
They may initially be very suspicious about chatting to someone they don’t know. Don’t creep her out by:
1. Flooding her with instant messages
2. Being overtly sexual
3. Getting to the point too quickly
4. Showing you know too much about her. She may think you’re a stalker
5. Come Across as Desperate
6. Don’t reference her looks to early
4. Have a Smiling photo of yourself for your Profile Picture
First impressions matter. If you use a friendly smiling photo for your profile picture, it will be the first photo they see when initiating a message or a friend request. These initial few seconds before deciding to accept or reject your friends request can make all the difference.
5. Consider have a Conversation with them in Person First
If she doesn’t know you any more than the homeless guy down the street, initiating a friend request out of the blue may unnerve the person and cause them to reject you. If your paths cross in person, you could show a casual interest in them first and then take things further online. That way they already know who you are, you’re not a total stranger and you’ve already built up some rapport with them first.
6. Use some humour
Lastly it always helps to use some humour when possible. Humour is important for romantic attraction. Humour points to having a sociable and agreeable personality helping to build trust.